Unavoidable Commentsts

 

DO YOU REMEMBER ABOUT PEN-FRIENDS WHICH WERE SO PROMINENT IN ONE TIME?

 

 I HAVE ONE

My Pal-Friend Jigme Wangchuk and I call him Jigme Gunda (11 years of Friendship without seeing each other)

In the year of 2010, when I was in 10^th grade, I met one friend called Jigme from very a funny route. Once, I borrowed a sim-card from my childhood friend Ugyen. One evening I got a call from a person named Jigme which was already saved in the sim-card.

‘Hello.’ I answered.

‘What are you doing?’ the soft voice of man asked me.

‘I am not Ugyen. I borrowed her Sim-card. I will send you her new number.’ I answered without any questions being asked.

‘Not needed. Can we be friends?’ He directly discarded my suggestions. I felt weird at once. I thought how flirty this man must be. ‘Why you don’t need her number? You are her friend not mine. You are completely stranger to me.’ I was bewildered with his offer. Being friend with him was not a problem but discarding his friendship with my friend was a problem for me.

“If she wants to be my friend forever, she will not give this Sim-card to you. If she had considered me as her special friend, she will make an effort to call me from her new number. If she had considered me as one important friend, she would have asked you my number even if she has forgotten my number. Did she ever ask you my number?” He directly asked me question in disheartened tone. I could not lie. My friend had never talked about him to me before. She had never asked about him or his number.

“She did not ask me but I am sure she would have forgotten. Sometimes, we forget even if someone is our special friend.” I made a way to convince him.

“I don’t forget my special friend. Do you forget?” He asked me emphasizing his emotions with his utterance.

“I do. I am a person who forgets important things frequently. But don’t worry, I have her number. I will send you right away.” I confidently stated.

“I don’t want it. Whatever, let’s forget about her. What is your name?” He asked me with giggling sound.

“Why you don’t want her number? Why?” I asked him.

“No more conversation about her. I don’t have any reasons. Please don’t ask me about her anymore, please. Anyway what is your name?” He asked me again.

“I am Thinley. I will talk about you with her tomorrow. Don’t be disheartened Mr. Jigme.” I giggled as well.

“Will you be my friend?” He asked me weirdly. I paused for a moment.

“Of course, we can be friends.” I remarked unwillingly.

“Alright then. Promise me one thing?” He promptly asked me.

“What?” I asked him in curiosity.

“Promise me that you will never ask about me to Ugyen. Promise me that you will not give my number to Ugyen. Promise me that you will never talk about her from today.” He asked me to promise him but it was difficult for me to decide. I remained silent for few minutes when he was busy making sounds of hello time and again.

I replied him after few minutes, my words filled with uncomfortable feelings, “You are making me villain. I don’t want to be villain in between friends. I have to talk to her about you. Are you guys in relationship? Are you guys having some relationship issues? You should solve it without involving me.”

“Don’t misunderstand me. We don’t have any special sort of connections or relationship. We met just few days ago. I guess, she did not like me even as friends. May be that’s the reason why she has changed her number or maybe she would have some personal reasons. So I don’t want to disturb her. Why don’t you understand? If someone is not interested, can we force them? Can we….?” He asked me with valid reasons.

“We can’t.” I answered.

“So……?”

“Alright, I understood. No further Arguments.” I quickly ended the further discussion.

“Thank you for understanding me. I am Jigme Wangchuk. Currently, I am here in Samtse College of Education. I am taking mathematic subject as subject of specialization. I am first year in the college. I wish to be your good friend, if possible till we die. Friends Forever.” He giggled displaying his hesitation. I smiled to myself hearing his giggling sound.

“It is your turn to introduce now.” He offered me time to talk about myself to him.

I laughed for a moment but I had to answer him, “My name is Thinley Zangmo. I am studying in 10^th Grade in Kanglung Middle Secondary School. I am cousin sister of your Friend Ugyen Chezom.”

“Alright. Nice to meet you. I am hoping to know you more from here. Thank you so much for accepting my friendship. Let’s be a good friend. Now I shall end this call. Take care.” He ended the call right after my answer of ‘OK’.

Our beautiful bond of friendship started from there. It was complete an accidental and that accidental meeting made us closest friends when the time moved on. I did not promise him verbally that I will not talk about him to my cousin Ugyen but I did fulfill his promise when she was not asking anything about him. The moment of not asking and sharing about Jigme to my cousin sister would define me with cruelty and mean but I had never wanted to be intruder in their friendship when both of them did not care to ask about each other. Do you believe in Fate and Destiny? I solely kept everything for that believe and did not dare to ask or talk about them to any one of them. The years passed by. Jigme  and Ugyen totally forgot each other but I continued  chatting  with in Message, calling each other for almost daily and I remember he was the one to call me frequently and I am still thankful to him. I don’t remember having various sources of social media to connect us in that particular period of beginning of our friendship but as time passed by we could connect more from Facebook and Wechat. When friends are not seen to each other, we tend to lose or forget the bond of friendship in between the years but that did not happen with us.

Even though I was reluctant to keep strong bond of friendship, he did not let our bond to be vanished from us. Such a friend I had and he is completely different from any man I had known. I know you would expect us to be in couple relationship but that did not happen. He is happily married man with one handsome boy. The specialty of my friendship with him remained even after his marriage, he did not change. He did not stop being friend with me. He was the one who kept the bond of our friendship strong, not me. I am that one lucky woman to have such dedicated and devoted friend whom I can trust without even seeing. I always thank him internally for being my best friend. I cannot define the exact bond we have but I assure you that sometimes we have a bond of friendship that never dies even if we are not seen to each other. He is my special friend. We had been friends for almost 11 years now. We keep ourselves connected through Video Chat, Voice Chat and frequent Messages through messenger.

Can you believe it? After almost 11 years of our friendship, we met here in Samtse College of Education just few days ago. He is currently doing Master’s Degree and I came here to complete my Post Graduate Diploma in Education specifically in English. I did not tell him beforehand that I am coming to the college deliberately to check whether he can identify me or not but unfortunately he had known that I was here in the college through my post in ‘My Day’. I could not lie to him anymore after that and I confessed finally that I am here in college.

He welcomed me with this yummy cake amidst of lock down. 

 I can’t describe the feeling of happiness of meeting him.  My  heartily  Message for him, ‘THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR BEING MOST DEVOTED FRIEND FOR ME, AND I PRAY TO REMAIN AS DEVOTED FRIEND AS YOU THROUGHOUT.”

“Sometimes Unseen Friends are much more worthy than your Seen and Known Friends”

 

-     Your Friend

 Aprihensle Kimum